How to Discover Your Own Personal Style And Stop Dressing for Everyone Else

The meaning

If you are wondering how to discover your own personal style, you are not alone. The meaning behind fashion is expressing yourself through your clothes, but I feel this meaning has been lost in translation. Nowadays, instead of focusing on how to express yourself through your clothes, we tend to focus on what is trending and how to impress others. You shouldn’t wear something to impress someone, or because it is something many people are wearing at the moment. It is not wrong to get inspired by the latest trends, but you should put your own twist on it so it aligns with you.

There are many disadvantages

to wearing something that doesn’t align with you and your personality, and I will be telling you all about it in an upcoming article. Because we are too focused on trends, finding our personal style can initially be very difficult and can cloud your decision-making. It is important to find what your true personal style is, because when something aligns with you, you feel more comfortable, and therefore you will feel more confident wearing it. If you are wondering why you seem so insecure, maybe rethink your personal style.

If something aligns with you,

Get to know yourself:

• What do I like/enjoy doing?
• What words describe me? (Not how you like to be described, but how you really are)
• What makes me happy?
• Ask your friends and family to describe you.
• What makes me unique? (And don’t even say there is nothing special about me; everyone is unique in their own way)

Getting to know yourself and knowing who you truly are will play an important role in finding your own personal style. Also, try to be aware of what you are doing in your daily life: some small habits you have, how you interact with people, and what makes you nervous or stressed.

Learn to love yourself:

After you get to know yourself on a deeper level, you need to work on loving yourself. In this part, you need to be open and accepting. I also have to mention that in the process of getting to know yourself, you can’t convince yourself to be someone you are not, just because you would rather be that way. In the long run, it won’t be good for you. You need to be open to fully knowing your true self. Learning to love yourself can be really difficult for some people, so be patient. Highlight some unique qualities you have, try saying affirmations like “I love and accept myself,” and learn to embrace all the imperfections about yourself. If you don’t love yourself, you will always be focusing on how to dress to impress instead of dressing to express yourself.

Get inspired by others:

As I said before, getting inspired by others is completely fine. By getting inspired by others, you will get some good ideas to try out and see what aligns with you the most. Try pieces that resonate with you the most, wear them with a few different outfits, and see how they feel. A great way to find out if it is really “you” or not is by taking pictures of outfits where you wore the piece and asking your family and friends if they think it aligns with you.

Another great way

is to write down how the outfit makes you feel after wearing it and looking at the photos you took. If, for example, you have a piece and can’t even put together an outfit with it, it is a sign it is not for you. Just play around and see what feels good for you. It is also important for you to feel comfortable in the piece, so make sure you feel this way.

Style pieces that will high light your personality:

Your style should highlight your personality, not someone else’s. Now that you have gotten to know yourself and your personality, you should be able to know what aligns with your personality. So, take for example a leather jacket, make a few different outfits with it, and see what suits you the most and what outfit screams “you.” In this part, it could also be useful to take pictures and then really look at them and think about what suits you.

Write it down:

Your style can also change from time to time. Sit down and write down how you are feeling and what your goals are at the moment. All of these can influence your style. How someone feels can influence how they dress, because this is also how you express yourself through your emotions. It is great to have a diary where you can write weekly about how you feel, so you can change up your style according to how you feel.

Fashion is

not about what you wear, but how it makes you feel. Does it describe you or someone else? In order to truly discover your own personal style, you have to get to know yourself and love and accept yourself.  Otherwise, this won’t be your personal style, and you won’t feel good in it. People love to pretend to be someone else because our society makes us feel we are not good enough. But don’t you get it? Every time you didn’t pretend, people were more drawn to you. Pretending is not a plus in any aspect of your life.

I always loved glittery clothes,